The I Factor™

Dirty and Thirty – How Do You Know?

by Paul N. Weinberg

In my last column, I mentioned a friend who had been dating a guy for months and yet had no idea if they were in an exclusive sexual relationship because they had never talked about it and she was afraid to ask.

Another friend was recently dating a guy for over a month before learning that he just wanted to hang out and wasn’t interested in having a relationship because they had never talked about it and she never thought to ask.

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Dirty and Thirty – He’s Just Not That Into You

by Paul N. Weinberg

How often have I heard a woman say, “I’m giving him another chance” about a guy who has betrayed her trust by cheating on her. I’m still surprised by how many times a typical woman will go back even after the guy proves to her again and again that he is not trustworthy.

True, everyone deserves a second chance. But not third, fourth and fifth chances. As the old saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” Unfortunately, giving a guy too many chances sends the message that he can walk all over you, and almost always has less to do with a woman’s forgiveness and more to do with her low self-esteem and not believing in herself enough to know that she deserves to be treated with respect.

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ChristieOhh – Celebrity Relationship Expert Weighs in on Celeb Couples

ChristieOhh: What does it take to keep a “happy” celebrity relationship?

Paul: Well… there are two things. One: celebrity relationships are like any other relationship; they need time to nurture and grow. Couples need time together and privacy. And two: they must have a sense of stability and certainty. It has to be an authentic relationship not a business decision. For example Kristen Stewart’s public apology to Robert Pattinson had nothing to do with sincerely wanting to apologize. It was a strategic PR maneuver.

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Ralph Acosta

Great read. I thoroughly enjoyed Paul Weinberg’s book The I Factor. Not only was the writing incisive, but the cartoons and quotations made reading the book an absolute pleasure. In fact, I have never had the chance to read a book in this format and wish more authors would mix their forms of communication within the medium of a book. I had the good fortune to meet Paul a few months ago and hear him speak about The I Factor. He is the genuine article, and I highly recommend attending a stop on his book tour or hearing him speak when you can.

Ralph Acosta // Dec 13 2012

Huffington Post – Author Explores Social Media and Relationships

I recently had the opportunity to pore through Paul N. Weinberg’s latest book, The I Factor. In the book, written with his ex-wife, clinical psychologist Dr. Susan Dyer, Weinberg thoroughly explores the affects social media has on various forms of relationships.

While social media continues to boom, Weinberg cautions us about totally relying too heavily on virtual relationships to foster meaningful relationships. Ultimately Weinberg suggests such relationships can leave us feeling lonely if solely relied upon.

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Dirty and Thirty – How to Lose a Guy in Three Dates

by Paul N. Weinberg

Before I was married, I spent most of my time being single between relationships, and those relationships tended to be extremely short. It’s not that I liked being single, but rather that I knew what I wanted and preferred to be alone rather than in a relationship with the wrong person.

And it’s not that I was particularly good at being single. I went out on a lot of dates but couldn’t pretend to be interested after I knew it wasn’t going to work out long term. So I went out on a lot of first and second dates, but rarely was I – or the woman – interested in going out a third time. I was the two-date king.

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Beverly Hills Times – A Wired World

by Paul N. Weinberg

In the late 1990s, my dating experiences in Los Angeles inspired my desire to write a book on intimacy and connection in personal relationships. I never could have imagined then how the world would change, and with the advent of social media, how relevant the subject would become…

Fast forward to 2012. We live in a wired world – and a weird time. Not a day goes by that we don’t read an article about how social media and interrupt overload are having a detrimental effect on our personal relationships, rewiring our brains to look like those of cocaine addicts.

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Dirty and Thirty – How to Find an Emotional Connection

by Paul N. Weinberg

In my post titled Why Women Hang In There With the Wrong Guys, I examined many of the reasons women stay in a relationship with the wrong guy.

What I left out is that the real reason women hang in there is that they can’t quite put their finger on the one thing that’s missing, which represents the best reason to leave the relationship.

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