Paul’s Preface 6
Sue’s Preface 8
Introduction 10
Why Intimacy 13
How to Use This Book 15
The Fundamentals 19
Foundations of Intimacy 39
Intimacy and Feelings 65
Intimacy and Differences 85
Intimacy and You 103
Intimacy and Communication 139
Intimacy and Conflict 181
Challenges of Intimacy 221
Intimacy Over Time 247
Summary 275
Epilogue 277
What Now 278
Emotional Intelligence 281
Feelings 282
Needs 285
The I Pyramid 287