CONTENTS

Paul’s Preface   6

Sue’s Preface   8

Introduction   10

Why Intimacy   13

How to Use This Book   15

The Fundamentals   19

Foundations of Intimacy   39

Intimacy and Feelings   65

Intimacy and Differences   85

Intimacy and You   103

Intimacy and Communication   139

Intimacy and Conflict   181

Challenges of Intimacy   221

Intimacy Over Time   247

Summary   275

Epilogue   277

What Now   278

Emotional Intelligence   281

Feelings   282

Needs   285

The I Pyramid   287